Browse through our previous topics and the participants’ thoughtful responses via the links below. And if a prompt inspires you, why not write about it yourself? It’s never too late!
Roundtable #1: Hindsight What one thing about open adoption would you tell your past self, if you could?
Roundtable #2: Fathers Write about the father(s) in your family’s open adoption(s).
Roundtable #3: Wish Lists Share your wish list for your open adoption(s).
Roundtable #4: Small Moments Write about a small moment that open adoption made possible.
Roundtable #5: Self-growth How has open adoption changed you? In what ways are you different because the presence of open adoption in your life?
Roundtable #6: Naming Write about names/naming and open adoption.
Roundtable #7: Privacy Where do you draw the lines–on your blog and in your personal life–and why? What, if anything, don’t you tell?
Roundtable #8: Influential Bloggers Write about a blogger (or bloggers) who influenced your real-life open adoption, and how.
Roundtable #9: Arguments Against Openness Some people argue that adopted persons should be free to initiate relationships with their first families–or not–on their own timetable. The parents (first and adoptive) in an adoption shouldn’t make such an important and personal decision for them by engaging in fully open adoption. What is your response? Do you agree or disagree? Why?
Roundtable #10: Birthdays I know that birthdays can be an extremely emotional time, for everyone connected to adoption, not just those of us in open adoptions. So what is it that we do, as part of our open adoptions, during the “birthday season”?
Roundtable #11: Holiday Season Write about open adoption and the holiday season.
Roundtable #12: Resolutions Call them resolutions, commitments, changes, or choices–how will you be proactive in the area of open adoption in 2010?
Roundtable #13: Disagreeing About Openness What we don’t often discuss is when people on the same side of the triad can’t agree on the level of openness in an adoption. How would/do you navigate these situations? Does your current relationship impact the type of open adoption that you have? How does this affect your current relationship?
Roundtable #14: Defining Success If there’s one thing we all might agree on, it’s that we’d like our open adoptions to be successful. But what does “success” mean to you, when speaking about open adoption? Do you think it may mean something else to the others in your triad?
Roundtable #15: Money Does money have an impact on your open adoption? If so, how?
Roundtable #16: Looking Back Imagine your child as an adult describing their open adoption experience. What do you hope they will be able to say about you? How did you view their other parents? In what ways did you support their relationship with them?
Roundtable #17: What Don’t You Want Shared? Are there any things that you don’t want the other members of your triad to know—or that you don’t want to know about them? What don’t you want shared in your adoptive relationships?
Roundtable #18: The Professionals We each interacted with at least one professional during the adoption process (agency, lawyer, facilitator, consultant, hospital social worker, etc.). What was one thing that they did that was most supportive of open adoption? What one thing was least supportive?
Roundtable #19: Open Adoption is About… ”Open adoption is about information sharing.” Share your reaction to that statement. How well does it match up with your experience of open adoption? If you disagree, how would you finish the phrase, “Open adoption is about…”?
Roundtable #20: Siblings Write about siblings and open adoption.
Roundtable #21: Holiday Traditions How do open adoption and holiday traditions intersect in your life?
Roundtable #22: Resolutions, part II Revisiting our 2010 resolutions and commitments
Roundtable #23: Questions About Open Adoption Answering seven thoughtful questions about what open adoption is really like
Roundtable #24: Open Adoption on Television How have you seen open adoption portrayed on television? What did you think? What, if anything, would you like to see?
Roundtable #25: When It Is Hard Has open adoption ever felt like too much? Have you ever wanted to walk away?
Roundtable #26: Parented Siblings How do you talk about parented siblings in open adoption?
Roundtable #27: First Meetings Write about a first meeting.
Roundtable #28: Bloggers answer a series of questions from a closed-era adoptee
Roundtable #29: Open Mic Share a favorite post.
Roundtable #30: First Impressions Do you remember the first time you heard about open adoption?
Roundtable #31: Fears Write about open adoption and being scared.
Roundtable #32: Holiday Memories Share a holiday memory that involves open adoption.
Roundtable #33: Reflecting on 2011 What did you learn about open adoption in 2011?
Roundtable #34: Difficult Questions How do you handle such questions when they are asked of you? How would you want the other parties in your open adoption to handle those questions when they are about you?
Roundtable #35: Grandparents Write about grandparents and open adoption.
Roundtable #36: Agreements Write about open adoption agreements. Is there one in your open adoption? What effect does it have on your relationships? If you could go back in time, would you approach the agreement differently?
Roundtable #37: After a Visit How do you feel after a visit?
Roundtable #38: Mother’s Day Write to someone else in the adoption constellation (someone specific or a general group). What do you want to say to them on Mother’s Day?
Roundtable #39: Father’s Day Write to someone else in the adoption constellation (someone specific or a general group). What do you want to say to them on Father’s Day?
Roundtable #40: What were your reasons for choosing open adoption?
Roundtable #41: Are you approaching openness differently in 2013? What experiences from in the past year influenced you most?
Roundtable #42: Think about a time when your child has been injured or sick (or for adoptees, when you have been injured or sick). Did adoption change or complicate that experience at all? Did you share it with others in your adoption constellation? You might write about an actual experience you have had or think about what you ideally would want to have happen.
Roundtable #43: How did you talk to your extended family about open adoption prior to adopting/placing? How did they respond? For those with non-receptive family members, were you able to have more successful discussions with them post-adoption?
Roundtable #44: What is “openness” to you?
Roundtable #45: Time: Write about open adoption and time.
Roundtable #46: Therapy: Have you ever considered seeking therapy (for yourself or a child) around adoption issues? If you’ve discussed adoption with a therapist or sought out an adoption-competent therapist, what was your experience like?
Roundtable #47: Have you experienced a stalled open adoption relationship? Have you ever been the one who pulled away?
Roundtable #48: Why has or hasn’t openness worked for you?
Roundtable #49: Your Father: Write about open adoption and your father.
Roundtable #50: School: Write about open adoption and school.
Roundtable #51: Does it get easier?: Does open adoption get easier over time?