The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. You don’t need to be listed at Open Adoption Bloggers to participate or even be in a traditional open adoption. If you’re thinking about openness in adoption, you have a place at the table. The prompts are meant to be starting points–please feel free to adapt or expand on them.
Write a response at your blog–linking back here so your readers can browse other participating blogs–and share your post in the comments here. Using a previously published post is fine; I’d appreciate it if you’d add a link back to the roundtable. If you don’t blog, you can always leave your thoughts directly in the comments.
Even the best of relationships can go through times of silence and disconnect. It can be hard to know where to go from there, particularly in the context of adoption. OAB reader Kerstin sent in this question about open adoption relationships that seem to have ground to a halt:
What to do when the ball is dropped in open adoption…when any one of the people involved just flat-out stop responding? Break-downs, break-ups…when does giving someone space turn into a one-sided relationship? Should you try harder to connect? Should you give up? Any methods to re-start, especially when there was no specific, known event leading up to disconnection?
Have you experienced a stalled open adoption relationship? Have you ever been the one who pulled away? Tell us about that.
The responses (so far):
Michelle (adoptive parent) @ Seriously?!
Robyn (adoptive parent) @ The Chittister Family
About the author:
A mother by open adoption, Heather Schade is the founder and editor of Open Adoption Bloggers. She writes at Production, Not Reproduction.